![]() ![]() ![]() If you choose to do, then say calmly "If you're genuinely still upset about all these disagreements, please let me know what you would need from me to put these to rest." Don't budge, don't apologize. Doesn't speak well of them, incidentally.Also, your reckoning should be on why you're putting up with this. Don't know how you can stay friends with me, believing I'd lie to you like that." Time to bring them a reckoning on constantly weaponizing the past against you. In short, attack the root: make your friend say yes, you did sincerely apologize, closing the issue, or if they claim you weren't sincere, say "Sorry to hear that. Instead when past wrongs come up, ask questions: "you may recall I apologized for that already. What you should do is just stop apologizing for anything you already apologized for in the past. Hax: probably won't ever get through, but that's not the part of the problem you should own. How many times must I apologize before it gets through- if it ever will? I use quotes because some, really my fault, some not, but I apologized for anyway. LW: Every time I and this friend fight- which isn't often, but generally significant when it happens- this friend brings up all the times I've "wronged" them in the past. (Link above and also: ) Sorry, it is October 9, not 8. ![]() Carolyn Hax: Friend dredges up old wrongs every time they fight ![]()
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